How to Increase Sexual Tension

sexual tension in dating

Okay, listen… I have to admit it…

Lately I’ve been talking to you about some VERY “deep” stuff when it comes to women and dating.

We’ve discussed how to permanently overcome your fears of approaching women and getting rejected.

We’ve talked about how to “transform” yourself into the kind of man who can get any woman he wants, any time he wants.

We’ve talked about how to “close the deal” with women to get more dates than you can handle…

We’ve even gone into how to have a great RELATIONSHIP (man, sometimes I still can’t believe we’ve gone there…)

But like Tom Cruise said in “Risky Business”, sometimes you just have to say “what the ****” and get down to it….

That in mind…

Today, I want to talk about a subject I hear from hundreds of guys a month about…


That’s why, in just a moment, I’m going to get into the BEST WAY to take things from “hello” to HOT AND HEAVY with a woman…

But even better… how to make her BEG you for it.

But first, the ground rules:

  1. I’m going to assume that you’ve overcome all your fear and “shyness” when it comes to approaching women.
  2. I’m going to assume that you know how to approach a woman in different situations and start conversations.
  3. I’m going to assume that you know EXACTLY what to say and do to get numbers from women… and then close the deal to get actual DATES.

In other words, I’m going to assume that you’ve laid all the necessary groundwork for “getting physical” by mastering the principles and techniques of CREATING ATTRACTION.


Because if you don’t have a handle on the basics of creating ATTRACTION yet, this is the cold, hard fact:

NOTHING I’m about to tell you will help you “get physical” with a woman.

Why not?

Because women won’t give you the time of the day — let alone consider you as a sexual partner — until you understand HOW ATTRACTION WORKS.

And I am NOT talking about having to look like a movie star, drive a sick car, or have lots of money.

ATTRACTION is *NOT* about any of these things.


That’s why, if YOU need to a crash course on how to CREATE ATTRACTION… 100% by what you say and do… I need you to go here right now:


Then, once you understand these basics, here’s the VERY good news…

It’s EASIER THAN YOU EVER IMAGINED to take things to a physical level with a woman… and do it FAST.

Even make her BEG you to take her to bed.

That in mind, let’s dive in…

As a starting point, let’s imagine you’re coming to the end of your first date with a woman you really like.

Now, if you’ve listened to me at all, you know that this date BETTER NOT have included buying her an expensive dinner.

Let’s say you’re a good student of mine, and that you took her for late coffee.

Well done.

Now it’s time…

You’re going to generate the first spark of “sexual feelings” in her by TAKING CONTROL of the situation right now.


By making sure YOU’RE the one to “end” this date.

By being the one who says, “Okay, I think we’d better be going.”

This immediately creates intrigue in her.

It builds feelings in her that you might actually be a sexual partner, instead of a “wussy-boy” who’s scared to cut short any opportunity to talk to a woman…

…then inevitably blow everything by saying something stupid.

Okay, now that you’ve taken control by “ending” this date, next you need to walk her home…

To YOUR home.

Invite her back to your house or apartment, and DO JUST ONE THING at the door before you go inside:

Start talking to her like she’s trying to convince you to let her come in (even if she’s not).

Say something like: “Sorry… I had a great time, but I have to get up early in the morning…”

She’ll probably stare at you in surprise. So wait a few beats. Then say: “Oh, okay, you can come in for a few minutes.”

Then open the door for her like a GENTLEMAN.

Now let’s freeze-frame right here, and think about what you’re actually doing…

You’re being chivalrous AND busting her balls at the same time.


I can’t emphasize enough how well this works to ramp-up feelings of sexual desire in a woman.

I *always* make sure to keep both of these feelings going at the same time.

I open doors for women, walk on the outside of the curb, and pull chairs out, etc.

But I also tease and use what I call “Cocky Comedy” at every opportunity.

But here’s the bottom line:

By being both CHIVALROUS *and* BUSTING HER BALLS, you’re creating incredible SEXUAL TENSION inside her.

You’re showing her two things at once…

That you’re BOTH a “bad boy” AND a “gentlemen.”

And make no mistake: this is the HOLY GRAIL when it comes to what women want in a SEXUAL PARTNER.

Learn it. Live it.

Okay, let’s un-freeze and continue…

Next, just walk in, and let her follow.

Now you’re in the house.


Take her for a casual tour, then sit her down somewhere comfortable.

Doesn’t really matter where… sofa’s good, bed is even better… but wherever you wind up is fine.

Then here’s the next move:


“Whu? Huh?” I hear you asking.

What I mean is, get quiet and let HER do the talking while you just look at her.

Then, while she’s doing it, lean away from her, and look away. As if you’re thinking about something.

Then just reach over and stroke her hair.

Just a little, at the bottom, while she’s talking.

Okay — now let’s pause again, because this is a key moment.

The whole ball game, really.

If she’s okay with your doing with this, you can take it as a SURE SIGN that she’s into you… and things are wide open to take things to the next level physically.

This is a CRUCIAL, and a piece of the puzzle that it took me a long time to figure out how to solve.

I used to do massages and all kinds of other stuff, but I quickly learned from “the naturals” — the masters of women and dating — that NOTHING works as well as stroking a woman’s hair like this.

The fact is, if a woman doesn’t pull away from you (or give you some other sign she’s not into it), she’s going to be making out with you in very short order, period.

IMPORTANT NOTE: If a woman does pull away, or in any way shows you she’s not interested in getting physical at this point, STOP. Move on. This isn’t about forcing anyone to do anything.

Sheesh, did I really have to tell you that?

Anyway. Onward…

At this point, if she’s letting you stroke her hair in this way, you should take things up just one small notch.

Try a light hand massage.

Maybe a little neck rub.

Definitely try to pull her in closer.

Start to “cuddle” with her.

Sniff her hair more and more while you continue to stroke it.

Within about 5 or 10 minutes, move to her neck and ears.

Listen up… NO KISSING at this point.

No touching or groping at all.


Just continue with the smelling, leaning back and showing that you’re completely into it.

Like it’s relaxing you.

Keep this going and I GUARANTEE IT:

She’ll soon become so turned on that you won’t believe it. And at some point soon… SHE’S going to be the one who tries to KISS YOU.

And that’s what you should be waiting for.

Let her lips get close to yours… even let them touch yours a bit…

… then (surprise) back off and just keep smelling.

Say something teasing like, “Oh, you’re kind of forward, aren’t you?”

It’ll drive her CRAZY.

After a few more moments, finally kiss her back, full-on.

Run your hands through her hair… the whole romantic kiss thing…


See what’s happening here?

This kind of teasing is EXTREMELY stimulating to women… almost to the point that they’ll be in actual pain if you leave them hanging.

But we both know you won’t….

But until then, be PATIENT. Hold out until the woman can’t stand it anymore.

You’re REALLY waiting for her to start doing something sexual… maybe grinding her hips on you… or grabbing your butt… whatever.

Now listen close, this is KEY…

At this point, SHE’S going to become the aggressor. So you’ll say something like:

“All you have to do is say PLEASE.”

Maybe she’ll then say, “No no no… I’m not going to beg you…”

You just say, “OK”. Then roll over or just lay back and look up… but look AWAY from her.

This will make the woman begin to wonder what the heck is going on here.

Her interest and desire will be on fire.

She’ll come over and start cuddling and kissing you to get things going again.

And you’ll keep on with the sensual kissing, breathing in her ears… all that good stuff.

When she’s so worked up that you can hear her breathing faster and her heart pounding, you’ll say it again:

“All you have to do is say PLEASE.”

OK, you get the idea.

If you need help on what to do after this step, it’s tragic. I recommend you go buy a book. Maybe the Kama Sutra or something.

Now go practice…

Posted in Body Language, Marriage & Beyond, Romance, Sexuality

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